Hey, everybody! Today, we’re about to bust a wide-spread sexual myth – that once you’re in a committed relationship, self-pleasure is a no-go (or should stop altogether). There’s this bizarre notion that getting busy solo-style while you’re in a relationship somehow messes things up. Some folks even equate it to cheating. To be brutally honest, that’s just a bunch of hogwash. Let’s dive into the topic of getting your groove on while in a relationship.
Masturbation Won’t Hurt Your Relationship:
First things first, let’s get one thing straight – masturbation isn’t a bad thing, and it doesn’t put a dent in your relationship. In fact, studies show that getting your self-love game on in a relationship might lead to more action between the sheets with your partner. Masturbation, just like almost all consensual bedroom activities, has its place both inside and outside of relationships. And not only does it have a place, but it can also add some spice to your love life, especially when you and your partner are on the same self-love page. Below is the full scoop on mutual masturbation, what makes it awesome, and some nifty tips.
What’s Mutual Masturbation, Anyway?:
Watching your partner pleasure themselves is downright sexy. It’s like having your own private X-rated show right in your bedroom (or wherever you get down to business). You get to see exactly how they like to be touched when they’re flying solo, and being part of that intense ecstasy is a real turn-on. You might even pick up some ideas for your next rendezvous together. Maybe you can introduce a wand vibrator for some nipple and clit action next time you’re in the mood. Or how about some anal beads if that’s your jam? Mutual masturbation keeps the intimacy alive.
Keeping Intimacy on the Menu:
Between work, family, friends, and all those other life commitments, you can get flat-out exhausted. Masturbation shouldn’t replace all your sexual escapades, but it can be your go-to when you’re too wiped out for the whole shebang. Sexual activity is super important for relationship health. People might say it’s not the be-all and end-all, but that doesn’t mean it’s not important. Instead of skipping it, try mutual masturbation. You can get off together without all the effort of oral, handiwork, or full-on intercourse. Your partner can nibble on your bits, and you can make out while you both do your thing. If you’d rather just kick back and do your solo act side by side, that’s cool too. The key is you’re getting your sexy self-love on with the one you love. You’re sharing your erotic space without the whole shebang. Just because you’re jerking off together doesn’t mean it lacks intimacy (and it’s damn hot).
Mutual Masturbation with Toys:
When it comes to using toys, mutual masturbation is like a golden ticket to spontaneity and adventure. Everyone can appreciate a good old butt plug. Try popping one in while using a wand vibrator to get the party started on the clit. The sensations? Mind-blowing. Imagine feeling those vibrations everywhere – around the anus, clit hood, and shaft – it’s a whole new level of clitoral carnival! Talk about a toe-curling sexual experience!
Don’t Forget the Lube:
Whether you’re going solo, having some fun, or exploring the backdoor, lube is your wingman. Lube creates a buffer between your sensitive bits and your toys. No one wants to fry their bits with a maxed-out vibrator. Ouch, mate. When using butt toys, lube is your ticket to smooth sailing. Butts don’t expand or self-lubricate like vaginas do. So, remember: lube, lube, and more lube. And make sure you’re using a water-based lube with your silicone toys. While silicone or oil-based lubes can be slick, they can wreck your silicone toys, and that’s no fun for anyone.